Two years back, while I was trying to comb my hair I found the first white hair. At first I thought it’s just a reflection of light from behind. But some days later my sis pointed some white hairs back of my head. I was like… Oh $#@t!!! I am getting older. It was the same time when I just started blogging. I don’t know why I didn’t blog about this.
First white hair is sort of turning point in your life. Often we relate it to experience. Your experience is directly proportional to the amount of white hairs on your head(What about the ones who are bald??). That’s why they say “These white hairs have seen a lot more things than you have.” Try to imagine a character artist saying this line. Becomes more effective. I have been involved in many conversations where this sentence struck.
The sad part of this story is that white hairs are on the verge of extinct. Hair dyes or Hair colors have changed this era. If you find someone with colored hair than he got white hairs(Most probably. I use these two words to save my life). A couple of months back my cousin brother colored his hair with white color. Not all but just the front part. I asked him why?? He said, “Everyone’s is coloring with brown, orange, pink and white is getting extinct. This is to save the whites and to get a different look among others.” True said. The only person with white hair I remember is Mr. Amitabh Bacchan with his white beard. Even the mothers in TV serials now don’t have white hairs. It’s difficult to differentiate who is mother and who is wife if you watch the serial for the first time.
I find it easy to bond and have conversation with white haired persons than youngsters of my age group. Maybe it’s because we are like haired, as in “like skinned” or “like religion”. Kind of Birds of the same feather flock together. They got a lot of experience and I have a big appetite for life experiences. I listen when they talk. Though on the verge of extinction, these white hairs can be found in places called old age homes. I am glad that at least someone is saving the white hairs.
Till you find your first white hair…
For the past three years I was in confusion. I was badly in need of someone who will guide me. I never wanted to attend the seminars and paid lectures for guidance. Because I attended some and thought they just recite what they write and that’s it. Most of the time they show you path in the stream you study. Nothing else.
For me it’s different. I always wanted to do something else and was not doing that thing. I got a degree in Civil Engineering but my interest was always towards Computers. I always wanted to pursue my dreams in that field. But the confusion was that I studied for so long in one field and just leaving that for what was then my hobby would be foolishness. Also getting a degree in Civil Engineering was difficult. I achieved it with some difficulty.
Three years I am into this field and did good wherever I worked. At least I was satisfied with my work. Never relaxed and always wanted to do better than earlier. By every job my pay scale also increased and tempted me to take this path. Lots of difficulties and I loved them. I don’t like easy jobs. I think they kill me.
There was one big issue though. I was unstable. Means my jobs last only six months. Though there were valid reasons in changing every job, they don’t count. Giving reasons for your failure is very easy. Result was five jobs in three years. I got great amount of experiencing doing every job. I learned a lot. A LOT…But I was not satisfied. I was ignoring my dreams. Dreams which were crazy and what everyone would laugh at.
The dilemma continued and I was still in search of Guru, a guide. I ended up reading lot of books to fill the voids of a guide. Always keeping myself inspired to move ahead. They helped me. While doing this I found my guide, The Alchemist – Paulo Coelho. Reading that book, I saw myself as that boy. It looked like I traveled instead of him.
Earlier, after loosing my job last month in unusual circumstances, I thought of learning new skills and took a break. I applied for all the ads and anything I found for first fifteen days. Then I stopped. Then came this book and I made my decision. I will pursue my dreams. Even if I fail I don’t have to blame anyone or give a reason. It was my decision. I am responsible for the consequences.
I have very rough road ahead now. It will take some time till I earn good from this and then another some to get success. Everything what I need is destined. I only need to work hard to reach my destiny. As I finish I recommend you to read this book. That may help you.
Being shameless is one of the greatest quality you’ll possess. Ask me. I’ve turned myself into a shameless person in last few years. So with all that experience in my pocket I am writing this guide.
1) Dress unconventional: Do not comb hair. Do not use deodorant and go for a wedding. You’ll hear this word “shameless” at least once. This is just start. You have way to go ahead.
2) Talk loudly and sing sad songs. If you possess a bad voice then nothing can be better. Use this god gift to improvise and to get closer to being shameless.
3) When in toilet, mostly in public toilets, start singing “I like you” or “Hello how are you”. You’ll grab some immediate attention also.
4) When in public place and there is a bit of silence, start cursing your boss with all the bad words you know. Make sure it’s loud enough to be heard by others.
5) Do not wash your clothes. Wear them for as far as you can without washing. Try wearing jeans. It is an official wear for such people. It doesn’t need much washing.
Follow these five simple steps and you’ll surely achieve your shameless degree. If you have any problems do comment here and ask for help. I’ll reply you as soon as possible. Who else can help you other than a shameless person.